And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). I was once at an intimate concert in which the performer, a deeply spiritual person, gazed warmly at his audience and said, "I want you to know, I love you all." I smiled tolerantly and thought, "Sure." Looking back, though, I realize my cynicism was misplaced. Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." (That was back in 1956 ― chances are he'd be even more pessimistic today.) So what is love ― real, lasting love? What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others.Scott also celebrated Thanksgiving with the whole crew last year. He'll always be."She also admitted she could never say never when it came to whether they'd ever get back together. "But we're just doing our best to be the best parents. But, like, we're friends at this point."One of Kourtney's biggest concerns in getting back together with Scott was his hard partying habits.Kourtney even told Ellen De Generes during an interview in January, "I feel like every day is different, but we're totally getting along. Right after she broke up with him, he decided to enter a rehabilitation program and, despite his lapses, has been working on himself ever since."I used to always think that when I was drunk the real me came out and I always thought the real me was a bad person," Scott lamented to Caitlyn Jenner in April. "Tell you what: I'll define it, and you raise your hands if you agree. When she called her parents to tell them the good news, they were elated.
At this point, he’s afraid that everything he said in the beginning has led you to believe that you guys are a couple and he starts acting in a way that shows you this is not the case.Either the guys have been scumbag liars or just a little too lazy when it comes to courting (and in one case, a guy was obsessively clingy).At this point, she’s pretty fed up and doesn’t plan to settle for anything less than the best.A few years ago, I spoke to a group of high-schoolers about the Jewish idea of love. By focusing on the good, you can love almost anyone. " "We're choosing to love him," her mother explained, "because love is a choice." There's no better wisdom Susan's mother could have imparted to her before marriage.