In the online world, there’s nothing remotely remarkable about a woman pursuing a man (or a woman).
Staff at Happn – one of the most popular apps that only allows people to match if they’ve crossed paths geographically – told me their data shows women are just as confident as men when it comes to asking people on dates. • The 20 most useful dating websites There's also much more of an openness around sex - it's not just that apps make it easier for people to find a quick shag, but that they encourage more experimentation.
It’s also great to ask a question at the end of your message- this starts a conversation and gives something to respond to. This is me doing my part to make that world a reality.
Sometimes you have little choice in this and supporting each other through it may be better than trying to force loads more time or activities together when you are already stressed, exhausted or distracted. What other activities take up your time and how you feel about them?
And at other times, it spirals you back onto the ground and makes you wonder if you even want to be in one.
Do you feel like you’re getting bored with your relationship?
If I don’t reply to your message once, it is possible it just got lost in the shuffle. Also, negative energy bums me out and I have no use for it in my love life, thanks.
I know we need to focus more on our relationship but this feels forced and awkward and if I’m honest - quite boring. There will be times in life when you may not feel so connected or are unable to be together as much as you would like.
While we still get on well and enjoy each other’s company I feel like we are so busy with work and doing up our flat that we are in danger of drifting apart. Although relationship advice books and magazine articles are full of tips and techniques for reigniting the spark in your relationship, often people find this tricky to do in practice.
Other apps have capitalised on the feminist zeitgeist, such as Bumble, which puts the onus on the woman by giving her 24 hours to initiate a conversation after she matches with a man. But that doesn’t mean they're not picky about who they’re going to do it with.
Dimo Trifonov, the founder of 3nder – an app that helps facilitate threesomes – previously told me that his app’s main users aren’t experienced ‘swingers’.