In addition to differences in communication style, I’ve also noticed that certain activities appeal to one culture a lot less than to the other. It’s easy enough for two Americans to have misunderstandings when things don’t come out right, tone is mis-perceived, or words other than those that most accurately describe one’s thoughts and feelings are used.
Imagine how tricky it can be to decipher all of this with someone who grew up with a different set of words all together?!
Families tend to have few children, but parents take their role as guardians and providers very seriously. In this culture marriage signifies a sacred communion of two souls and a new beginning of a long-lasting relationship between loved ones and their extended families. And who doesn’t know that French men embrace style, sophistication, elegance, and a storied appreciation of fine cuisine?
Work and vacation, fun and hard work, and family and career are usually all completely balanced in their lives.
Blogs, books and magazine articles never seem to tire of coming-of-age love stories featuring young, Anglo-saxon women and dapper French men – no matter how trite and embellished they may be.
Few, however, share the experiences of Anglo men and their adventures in dating.
My experience has been that European men, in general, still utilize romance, such as loading on the sweet talk, and though it's laughable when you've only met a person, they will say, "I love you" (the Italians will actually say it 3 times in one sentence: "I love you, I love you, I LOVE you! American women have a reputation for being easy in (at least) Western Europe.
While an accent is a pretty superficial reason to go on a date, at the time, it seemed as legitimate of a reason as any. When the waiter brought my fish, he informed us that it had been boiled alive. What was I doing making dinner reservations at a restaurant that cooks its fish alive? We threw our gelato away, too cold to eat on this Eskimo-style date.At the end of the day, I find that the differences and challenges I face while trying to adjust to a new set of relationship rules do NOT outweigh the happiness I’ve found.What amazes me most is that despite these differences between us, being happy with someone has never before been this easy. Realizing that I traveled half-way across the world for a job after a chance meeting with the man who’s now my boss and discovered way more than just a new job and a new city. Despite their reputation as romantics, the French have a practical approach towards marriage.The family is the social adhesive of the country and each member has certain duties and responsibilities.