Victims can be highly traumatized by this and are often very embarrassed and ashamed when they learn they have become a victim of a scam and that the romance was a farce.
In some cases, online dating services are themselves engaged in misrepresentation, displaying profiles which have been fabricated, which use personal information from users who have not agreed to be depicted on the site social accounts, classified sites and even forums to groom new victims.
Letters are exchanged between the scammer and victim until the scammer feels they have groomed the victim enough to ask for money.
This is where the scammers decided I would be a sucker.
Scammers will contact their victims by mail, phone call, text message, email, online or a simple knock on the door.
Apart from the door knock, that has been reducing over recent years with increased regulation, these communications can come from anywhere in the world and do.
Next match was by Internet, which significantly speeds up the dating (um, scamming) process. And Western Union, Xoom, and Moneygram will take your money to her almost instantly.
An American with four Catholic Filipino wives (yes, polygamy) who befriended me said that the situation in the Philippines is so desperate that I could get whatever I wanted in a wife..make out a list of qualities I wanted, and he'd tell his people, and she would be found. Being a certified handwriting expert came in handy. and a web cam one can talk face to face with your lady for free for hours.