You follow up, you wait, things usually don’t pan out.When you do find success, you realize that it came the way most things in life happen — organically, through people you know.I guess I would have thought once you hit 50, committing a felony wouldn't be on anyone's bucket list, but I've met several women who have dated recently-convicted felons, and I have dated two, one of whom was wearing her court-ordered ankle bracelet on our date.) But back to the hurt feelings.A couple of years ago, when I was dealing with a fair amount of family "stuff," I had to postpone a scheduled first date sort of at the last minute. Don't ever contact me again." Well, thanks for the warning. I’m going to make her pay,” it’s time we all got the fuck over ourselves, and help our fellow men understand that part of being a man is accepting what we can’t change. Even learned swing-dancing last fall so you could charm her on the dance floor. ) But, hey, for whatever, in the end, she opted out. She said, “No thanks.” and maybe never even gave you a reason (which she has no obligation to offer). Unfortunately, that’s the romantic casino you chose to roll the dice in. ” We need to earn our place in their lives through love and respect, not intimidation. We just need to accept the things we can’t change, yet have the courage to change the ones we can. So before the next one of us says, “It’s not fair, I don’t deserve this rejection. Opened the doors for her, had great conversation and maybe bought her dinner. What you can’t do is make it your life’s mission to “get even” with her. And being a man isn’t about not feeling hurt: sure, you can feel hurt, bummed out, whatever. We can knock on the door, but it’s up to them who they allow into their world. Maybe he is the kind of charming, considerate, affectionate man I’ve been looking for after all! Making our romantic dreams come to fruition isn’t so different from doing so with any other goal. But it doesn’t mean some other wonderful result isn’t still possible for us.
And if you do want to change her mind, start by showing you respect her decisions. You letting yourself getting too wounded by her disapproval means you could be on your way to some ridiculous pattern of over-reacting, and at its worst, possibly physical abuse. So not only will she miss out on possible romance, but so will your fellow men whom she’s too gun shy now to even consider. Any life spent chasing goals is going to run into some resistance–romantic pursuits aside.
This doesn’t mean “trying again” so many times until you wear her down (although a little persistence has been known to make a good impression.) It’s about knowing when your sights are best set elsewhere. And they all started out somewhere–often just with getting overly upset at a casual dismissal. But to assume it’s always because she deems you unworthy is not only often inaccurate, but smacks of insecurity and self-pity–two characteristics that will make sure she’s not interested. If your over-reacting fills her with a heightened fear of men, then she’ll be less likely to open her heart to the next guy. Even if just a little, by simply starting to take the everyday reaction of “Sorry, I’m not interested” with more maturity and aplomb. 8) If you can’t handle rejection from women, how will you handle it elsewhere?
1500 women are murdered by intimate partners every year. And don’t be surprised if she comes tracking you down later wondering why you moved on so easily.
You use the internet to varying degrees of success, clicking and writing emails and then clicking some more, and sometimes, if the cards are in your favor and the stars align, you end up meeting a stranger in a public setting and make awkward small talk while wearing shoes that pinch your toes and more makeup than you would for a Tuesday.
When it’s over, you’re euphoric or despondent, alternating between mapping out a future for yourself or envisioning waiting for an email that never arrives.